Attractions are experiences, not definitions. If you’re a man navigating same-sex attraction and longing to live with clarity, integrity, and hope, you’re not alone. Defeated? Discouraged? Confused? You’re still capable, worthy, and ready for new possibilities. You’re in charge.
Own Your Identity
We support you in finding your voice, honoring your story, and charting a future that reflects your values. Instead of wondering who you are or where life will take you, you can live with purpose and possibility. You will “Own Your Identity.”
What This Journey Emphasizes
- Compassion: meeting yourself with honesty and kindness
- Agency: making choices that align with your deepest values
- Integrity: integrating your beliefs, relationships, and behavior
- Community: walking with people who listen, not label
- Growth: learning skills that foster resilience and purpose
From Turmoil to Clarity
When attraction feels overwhelming or confusing, it can seem like it’s telling you who you are and what’s possible. It doesn’t have to. You can choose how to understand your experiences, how to relate to them, and how to act with intention. Explore our approach to same-sex attraction that centers dignity, agency, and possibility.
A Simple, Courageous Framework
- Notice: become aware of thoughts, feelings, and patterns without judgment.
- Name: clarify what matters to you—values, beliefs, boundaries, aspirations.
- Navigate: take small, daily steps that align behavior with your values.
Principles That Guide Us
We believe every man can live an integrated life. That includes men who experience same-sex attraction and want to relate to their experiences with integrity and self-respect—without coercion, shame, or pressure to be someone they’re not. Purpose grows where honesty and ownership meet.
Practical Ways to Begin This Week
- Journal for 10 minutes a day: “What do I value most? What choices reflect that today?”
- Define boundaries that support your wellbeing and relationships.
- Share your story with a trusted, respectful friend or mentor.
- Practice one grounded habit: sleep, movement, or mindful breathing.
- Consider professional support from a licensed, respectful clinician who honors your goals.
FAQs
Is this about changing who I’m attracted to?
No. This is about agency—how you understand your experiences and the choices you make in light of your values. Your dignity and autonomy come first.
What if I identify as gay, bisexual, or I’m unsure?
Labels are personal. You’re welcome here whether you use a label or not. Attractions are experiences, not definitions.
I feel conflicted between my values and my feelings. What now?
Conflict is human. We help you slow down, clarify what matters, and take steps that respect both your values and your wellbeing.
Can I pursue purpose and healthy relationships while experiencing same-sex attraction?
Yes. Purpose is built through daily, value-driven choices and honest connection—with yourself and others.
What does “Own Your Identity” really mean?
It means you decide how to relate to your experiences, what you value, and how you’ll live—no shame, no scripts, just courageous ownership.
Start Today
Your story isn’t over; it’s unfolding. Find your voice, honor your story, and chart your future. Live with purpose and possibility—and truly own your identity.
